He is so hyper active and high strung, he has a very hard time paying attention or focusing on anything for a long period of time. He is very disobedient and it seems like he ENJOYS being mean. If I have anybody over and they say "Hi Austin!", instead of him saying hi, he will make this spit noise thing with his tongue and pout. I get so frustrated because I want everyone to see this sweet side of him that it seems like only I know exists. I want him to make friends at school and be able to interact with everyone in a "normal" way. I focus a lot on my parenting and disciple methods and I literally feel like I have tried everything. I love spending time with my children, but in all honesty sometimes it's hard to enjoy my time with my son because it feels like every minute is a struggle. I hate feeling like this and I hate to think that maybe he isn't enjoying his child hood. Do any of the other moms out there ever feel like this? Because, really, it makes me feel like a bad mom sometime. It feels like I am the only one having these issues.
This is my first child. I have no other three year olds to compare him to other then the children at school who seem a lot more mild then my son. Is this typical three year old behavior? I feel like I could be completely content and fine having a child who is hard to handle if I knew that this was normal and it should pass. What bothers me is thinking, what if this isn't normal? Is he going to have to struggle throughout his entire life? I always am wondering things like, does he have ADHD, and if he did would I even be willing to medicate? Which leads me to my next dilemma...
I have been considering the fact that maybe he does have ADHD (which they wont test for until 5 I hear) and have been reading up on diets to help. I recently read that a food allergen can cause hyperactivity or trigger ADHD, and that sometimes a good indication a child is allergic to something is if they are addicted to it. Austin has this type of relationship with milk. I mean literally, the kid drinks at least six cups of milk a day. So, I thought it would be worth a try to eliminate milk from his diet (started that on Thursday). This has been a challenge in itself but I think I notice a slight difference. I think I will give it until the end of the week to really gauge his behavior. I think the next step if I don't see improvement will be to eliminate all precessed food and added sugars, and anything with food dyes, which I read can all be triggers of ADHD as well. So that's where I stand, and I feel a little silly and obsessive/crazy about it but I figure even if this is just typical three year old behavior, a good diet can't hurt. SO... please share with me your experience with your toddler because I could really use some words of advise. Or even just to know that what I'm dealing with is normal!
Hope everyone is having a great Monday!